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Did you know that you very naturally do “The NLP Mirror?” Have you ever noticed that when you are hanging out with your best friend, you tend to act and sound very much alike? It has been noted that when you are copying another person’s body language and using their words and voice tone…your relationship is strengthened.



WHAT IS NLP?



Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) was developed jointly by Richard Bandler and John Grinder under the tutelage of Gregory Bateson (a renowned anthropologist, social scientist, linguist and cyberneticist), at the University of California, Santa Cruz, during the 1970s.
The acronym NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. The “Neuro” relates to our thought processes, which activate the neurological system. The “Linguistic” refers to how we communicate with others, especially through language and how it can influence our experiences. And finally, “Programming” relates to our patterns of behavior and our emotions, which we use to learn, evaluate information, deal with problems, make decisions, and ultimately achieve results.

NLP is essentially about learning how to think and communicate more effectively with others and create rapport.



Rapport is the foundation for any meaningful interaction between two or more people – rapport is about establishing an environment of trust and understanding, to respect and honor the other person’s world. Rapport creates the space for the person to feel listened to, and heard and it doesn’t mean that they have to agree with what the other person says or does. When you are in rapport with another person, you have the opportunity to enter their world and see things from their perspective, feel the way they do, get a better understanding of where they are coming from; and as a result, enhance the whole relationship.



When describing the way in which people experience the world, NLP focuses upon the five senses of touch, taste, sight, sound, and smell. In addition, NLP identifies three broad ways in which people make sense of experiences and filter information from their environment. They are known as:

* Visual—you focus specifically on what you see;
* Auditory—you notice the sounds around you;
* Kinaesthetic—you are particularly aware of how things feel both physically and emotionally.

These three ways of dealing with the external world are described as “representational systems” in NLP terminology. NLP identifies the link between language and the way in which we use our senses to respond to our environment and how language can reflect a preferred representational system. Observing the language that people use and identifying whether they are using visual, auditory, or kinaesthetic senses can provide you with an insight into the way that they are responding to information and to their environment. NLP teaches that by adopting the language of someone you are interacting with, you will be able to communicate your message with much greater effect.



A 1970 study conducted at the University of Pennsylvania by Dr. Ray Birdwhistle concluded that 93% of our communication transpires non-verbally and unconscious. NLP Mirroring, matching, pacing and leading skills will enable you to become “like” the other person. Anthony Robbins stated: “People who like each other tend to be like each other.”
The key to establishing rapport is an ability to enter another person’s world by assuming a similar state of mind. The first thing to do is to become more like the other person by matching and mirroring the person’s behaviors — body language, voice, words etc.

Build Rapport

Though you may find that you develop a natural rapport with some people and not others, that does not mean you cannot build rapport with everyone you meet or work with. Do know that you can develop rapport with anyone by using simple NLP methods:

* Mirror the other person. It is possible to artificially simulate rapport by consciously mirroring the other person. By observing his or her body language, choice of words, subjects of interest, as well as values and ideals, you can adapt the way in which you communicate to suit the individual you are dealing with. Mirroring should be subtle since exaggerated mimicking can actually break rapport!



* Identify what the other person’s values are in order to approach leadership in alignment with those values. Inspire people by recognizing what inspires them.



* Listen to their language and identify whether it describes what they see, what they hear, or what they feel and adapt your language and method of communication to match their preference.



* Keep yourself clear and open, so as not to make judgments about the person and stay focused on what the person is actually saying, rather than airing any negative viewpoints. As Eckhart Tolle does…”Stay in the Moment!”



* Be aware of the pace at which people like to communicate and the volume of information that they can process at any one time. Try to communicate at their speed and level of detail.

Mirroring done with integrity and respect creates positive feelings and responses…if not, then mirroring becomes mimicry and has negative consequences. To take it a step further, you then go to matching. One basic difference between mirroring and matching is timing. When the other person is talking and using hand gestures etc., you can be still and in the “Now” moment. When it is your turn to speak, you can make your comments and your point using the same, or similar gestures.

PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE

Start with your family members and find a specific behaviour or movement to focus on and match and you might choose one behaviour per day to practice until you can build up your rapport skills.

Also remember to practice mismatching and this is great fun!….be sure to end the interaction in a state of rapport.



When I was training for my NLP Certification in Florida, we were taught to put ourselves into “State” by using words, eye movements and focus. The power of this was beyond awesome…I walked on fire, walked barefoot on a board of nails, and did a tandem sky dive!

Remember to create your rapport with The NLP MIRROR for the good of all and the sky is the limit for you!

Welcome and thanks for coming by again to share a “cup of” and to learn how to claim your abundance! I would so appreciate your tweeting and sharing of this info, if you feel good about what you have experienced here! Thank-you.

Eckhart Tolle has given us words of wisdom with, “ACKNOWLEDGING THE GOOD THAT IS ALREADY IN YOUR LIFE IS THE FOUNDATION FOR ALL ABUNDANCE.”

I want to share insights and action steps from Eckhart Tolle, Jonathan Budd, and myself which will enhance your life and claim your abundance…right now….

The significance of Eckhart’s quote cannot be overlooked. It is a mantra to live by.

So often in life, as we go after more things, more money, more, more….we are coming from a place of

lack. We are negatively focusing on what we don’t have……yes, to seek something else and to seek to

change in our life is, for sure, okay; as long as lack is not the foundation for our focus to make the

change in our lives.

As we bring this around to Eckhart’s quote of acknowledging the good that is already in our life; we see

the difference in the mindset between lack…I don’t have enough, I need, and look at all this good that is

in my life.

The difference in power of the two perspectives is impossible to convey, other than your direct

experience with it.

Know that even if you get financial wealth from a lack perspective; you will not be fulfilled…you will

always be lacking something…always feeling that you don’t have enough. There will always be the chase

of one thing after another in your life and that is the paradox of coming from a place of lack.



So, how do we claim our abundance?



Until we

develop the wealth inside ourselves, we never feel like we have it, no matter what we do nor what we

get. We are always lacking something, as long as we have a perspective of lack within ourselves.

So, how do we change this all to-day; so, that we begin to see all the total abundance and amazing

beauty that is already in our life and become AWARE that it IS our life?

Well, it has to do with coming into the PRESENT MOMENT and with GROUNDING yourself

with what is; with present moment awareness.

We have to ask ourselves; what would happen if we got rid of all of our thoughts…past and

future…gone…totally gone from our minds and emotions…no pain, no lack. Also, we therefore,

wouldn’t have to worry about the future because of past pain and lack memories and emotions.

We could then, look and experience the PRESENT MOMENT with the clarity and fullness of a newborn

child. Whether it be the purple petals and fragrance of a flower or objectively seeing and feeling the

unconditional love of your family pet. The moment is perfect and you are a part of that abundance.

You are a part of this thing called, Life and there is abundance everywhere! Look up into the sky…do

you see lack? No, we see the infinite and abundance everywhere….this is our choice..this is our reality

and we are really grounded in the moment. This is your moment; this is beautiful and what I am

suggesting is that when you come from that place within yourself and you are acknowledging all of the

good that is in your life, you acknowledge how beautiful the world is, you acknowledge how beautiful

the moment is and you acknowledge the good that is going on in your life and you are present with it

and it is okay. ..THAT is what abundance is born from! You are finally accepting the moment and when

you do that, you are saying to yourself; “This is good enough, I am happy, I am content, I am

acknowledging the good that is in my life, I am in the moment, I am fulfilled just as I am, without

needing anything else….I AM FULFILLED JUST AS I AM….that is TRUE ABUNDANCE, and you are in this moment…claiming YOUR ABUNDANCE!

When you come from this place, no matter what you get in life, no matter what you experience in life, you are

ALREADY FULFILLED, you are ALREADY ABUNDANT and it so happens that when you come from that

place of fulfillment already, abundance ; it is actually easier to create physical, emotional, and financial

abundance in the external world because you are not so attached to money now and you probably think

clearer and act more powerfully, and your actions are probably more productive. There are all sorts of

good things happening as a physical byproduct of being fulfilled already and grounding ourselves in the

present moment.

If there is an area in your life that is preventing you from living the present moment, that is preventing

you from seeing the good…the good that is inherently in life and is abundantly yours for the asking…no matter where you are, no matter what

is going on; trust me, your story and the story that your mind is telling you about your life and all these

problems, whatever story the mind plays…it is not the truth and even if it is a part of the truth; it is only

a tiny part of the whole truth of life.

If there is something that is preventing you from seeing this greater truth, seeing the greater abundance

everywhere; then we have to ask ourselves…what is that past emotional thought or future thought, that

I am hanging onto that is actually clouding my vision of the moment and what am I hanging onto that is

clouding my ability to acknowledge the good that is already in my life and to see the moment for what it

is…which is an infinitely beautiful moment! Set the ego aside and let your child, that is within, come out and play in THIS MOMENT!



What if we assumed that everything the Universe sent to us was “good” for us; even if though we may not be aware of this “good” in its beginning stages?

You are here to enable the divine

purpose of the universe to unfold.

That is how important you are!

Eckhart Tolle

John Lennon said, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.”

Has that ever happened to you?

One moment you are totally clear on where you are going and what you are doing and then suddenly, WHAM, something comes up and suddenly your lost, dazed and confused?

Most of us have experienced those moments.

Life is a journey and to be aware of and to use the tools of Empowerment of Being to nourish and rebalance YOU is essential!

We know that life is energy. We are comprised of energy in the Spiritual, physical, and mental/emotional sense.

Within this and my next few posts, I want to share with you the tools of Empowering Your Being on all levels.

As James Redfield says, “By seeing the beauty in every face, we lift others into their wisest self, and increase the chances of hearing a synchronistic message.”

He has given us a wonderful and living map of becoming aware of guiding insights that are all around us, each and every day! How great is that!

Just stop for a moment and drink this in… feel it… reflect upon it…

THE FIRST INSIGHT . . . A CRITICAL MASS
A new spiritual awakening is occurring in human culture, an awakening brought about by a critical mass of individuals who experience their lives as a spiritual unfolding, a journey in which we are led forward by mysterious coincidences.

THE SECOND INSIGHT . . . THE LONGER NOW
This awakening represents the creation of a new, more complete worldview, which replaces a five-hundred-year-old preoccupation with secular survival and comfort. While this technological preoccupation was an important step, our awakening to life’s coincidences is opening us up to the real purpose of human life on this planet, and the real nature of our universe.

THE THIRD INSIGHT . . . A MATTER OF ENERGY
We now experience that we live not in a material universe, but in a universe of dynamic energy. Everything extant is a field of sacred energy that we can sense and intuit. Moreover, we humans can project our energy by focusing our attention in the desired direction…where attention goes, energy flows…influencing other energy systems and increasing the pace of coincidences in our lives.

So, for this week…print out the above 3 insights and take time each morning and evening; upon rising and before bed to read and reflect upon them…with no other purpose…other than to be in the moment with these energetic and balancing thoughts. You may even wish to put them up on your desk and stop a moment and let them nourish Your Being!

Secondly, I want to share with you a site that feeds the Spirit and soul.

As an example, one of the Sympatico Films, TAOS, takes us to a scene where …

We meet John Wahlberg, who is a super-stressed out, fast- track lawyer in the prime of his life who is on the road to join his girlfriend in Aspen (where she is expecting him to propose). When his car breaks down, stranding him in Taos, New Mexico, he is suddenly stuck in a small town without cell coverage.

A shaman, a woman, and a little magic reveal the possibilities of a new way of living. One path leads to the unknown. The other path is his current buttoned up, elite, financially secure world.

Which does he take and what will that mean for you?

I have no financial connections with this info…it is an energy gift from the Universe.

Great news from our friends at Spiritual Cinema Circle– you can receive TAOS plus 3 great short films for FREE when you sign up for a trial membership at no charge. (just pay a small shipping fee).

Simply go to: www.spiritualcinemacircle.com

“The Spiritual Cinema Circle is providing a great service to those who want to evolve and be entertained at the same time.”
Deepak Chopra

Blessings of Abundance to YOU!

DrLinda.